Empathic Moment Avoided - Great Example on How To Overcome Taking on Others' Energies

Yesterday, I was powerfully reminded how easy it is to take on the sad, traumatic or negative energies of others. I was bringing a meal to a homeless person and the instant I handed her the bag of food, I started to cry. Sound familiar?

In that moment, I realized I had taken on her energy of pain and suffering. But here is the key! Pay attention!! As quickly as I felt the emotion rise up in me and the tears start to flow, I stopped and asked myself, “Why am I feeling emotional?” I immediately realized I had taken on her energy and I said, “NO! This is not mine.” With swift intention, I let it go and it was done. I filled myself with light to flush the energy out and moved on. I felt great again and I did not allow myself to go into her story with a pondering mind as to why she arrived to the state she was in. Rather, I intended blessings of love, gentleness and compassion to her and with a smile, I went on my way.

I set a healthy boundary for myself and felt proud that I was aware of what actually happened and I solved the potential problem instantly. I must say, it was such a simple and yet profound moment because in a nanosecond, I had gone into her energetic story and started to take it on. In the past, I would have felt the depression for days possibly, until I finally cleared it out. Not anymore. I realize I must manage myself and kick out what is not mine or not let it in to begin with. It’s that simple but it takes self-awareness and practice.

Loving and helping others does not mean taking on their pain. Much of our suffering is because we have taken on energies of others and have not learned how to stop this behavior and release energy. In fact, many empaths don’t consciously realize they are doing this. It is a learned behavior that is automatic.

As empaths, without thinking or intending, we allow in or absorb the energies of people we come into contact with. This is highly detrimental to peaceful, balanced, and happy living. You become a victim of the emotional state of those in your environment. You didn’t ask for this. You didn’t seek this gift out and yet it seems to control your life and ability to thrive. In short, you feel stuck and definitely isolated – not out of choice but as a defense.

You do have a choice and a solution that I have found works. Be consciously present with yourself. Take note when you go out and start to feel drained, tired, and emotional. When you do, you have taken on someone’s energy. Kick the energy out by saying NO. Fill yourself with light, which is like an energetic bath, to cleanse your field. Then move on and don’t dwell on it. Let the experience go. If you start to think about the person or experience or situation with wonder and focus, you are now back in the energy – yep, just like that. Train yourself to stay in your own energetic pillar. In time, this practice becomes as automatic as the practice of taking on the energies.

There are many other tools you can use as an empath to help yourself. This is one example of something I have found that works. And it is empowering because in the process you realize just how powerful you truly are. You are not a victim!

Blessings.